克己以利他， 坚忍持净戒

克己以利他， 坚忍持净戒

如果布施与持戒做个比较，持戒会比布施更疏胜，更重要。这是因为佛教是以止恶行善为手段，而清净身心，再以清净的身心去止恶行善，这样循次渐进，最终走上解脱之路。

布施往往是用身外物来接济众生，而持戒的主要目的却是在于克制自己的欲望，和行动，由于心中的杂染欲望是无形的，所以比身外物更难割舍。许多时候正是这些欲望与杂念，自私，不能让人真心的布施，所以说持戒乃布施之本。

再者克制自己欲望能让世间达到和乐善生的境界。怎么说呢？如果能克制自己欲望，就能确保我们不做损人利己的恶行。比如持不盗戒，不是一日两日不盗，一人两人不盗，而是从此以后，对所有人的财产，给予尊重，和不侵害的保障。 这就是没有差别性的遵守不盗戒。

又如不邪淫，就是从此以后，不对任何异性以诱惑，强暴，威胁等手段来满足自己欲望，却破坏了他人的尊严，家庭等。

因此，佛赞持五戒即五大施。要认真受持戒行，得忍受痛苦，诱惑甚至胁迫，持戒得有宁持戒而死，不毁戒而生的决心。由于人的贪嗔痴和妄想，是漂浮不定难以捉摸与预防的， 唯有坚毅的决心，来克服环境诱惑，克制情欲时时警惕用心才能保持净戒。要知道，万一不慎犯戒，一辈子的努力将付诸东流，毁于一旦。有时还可能万劫不复 - 就如一人一生守法，一次犯法却得受法律制裁 - 不管你曾经多么守法。

Dream of dad 14

In this dream that happened only a few days after the last one, I saw dad working at a worksite. He donned a safety helmet and looked at me with anger. I thought about how he had to continue to seek for employment even when he was so frail and weak puts me in utter disgust of myself again, I said sorry to him to which he did not respond.

Later in the dream was when I dreamt that I was flying around the city without aid! I eventually came to this enclosed area when I was surrounded by a group of people who looked pretty normal but are 'demons' (somehow I knew, you know the absurdities of dreams). Being calm I sat Down cross legged. These individuals have not revealled their evil nature yet and sat down In the same way around me. I started chanting the heart sutra and the polite smiles on their face frozen, trying to hide the great sufferings they are encounter due to the powerful sutra. I woke up right after that

Dream of dad 13

Dream about dad again the other day. It has been a while since I dreamt about him. In the dream we were at this mountain ridge, he was standing along side a line of strangers, I held his upper arms tight and cried while apologizing repeatedly. When I woke up, I was soak in tears. A colleague of mine asked if I had moved on, I told her I am trying to to avoid concern from her but deep down I know it is not possible to recover fully. Dad's sufferings and my cruelty will always haunt me.