Support from cousin

I am very grateful for all the support that came from my maternal extended family, right from the first instance of the news of my dad's passing. My aunt, uncles and cousins came to my mom's support immediately, giving her much needed comfort while my sis and me went to the mortuary.

They came everyday to the wake and helped us on the preparations, reminding and guiding us on what needs to be done, volunteering to hang the banners, helped us set up tables and chairs to receive the clients, stayed through the day and nights with us and mom.

My cousin sister kept checking on us and mom even after the wake, when my sis expressed pessimism on her facebook she encouraged and supported her, called me and let me know what happened. Her father, who is my first uncle, showed us the ropes on the deliverence services, hooked us up on contacts for the paper house which i burnt for dad, even came to make sure that things are ok, ignoring his work.

it is through all their great help that i saw what a family is about, i cherish their warmth, I have always knew that my mom's family is a warm and closely knitted family, i cannot express the gratitude that i felt towards all of them, i am proud to be part of the family, while we do not share the same surname i felt that we really do share the same genes.

my paternal family is a more subtle one. fifth uncle was very helpful, in the first instance he came to us and gave us invaluable advise. They have been very patient, even though they were fully aware of how we treated dad, 2nd uncle was very unhappy, i understand, i cannot face him, let alone dad. i still remember a year back when our 6th uncle is back in s'pore for his wedding, he told me to take good care of dad, i smiled, wrapped my arm around dad and said yes i would - how much of it is sincere you can tell by how dad has been treated, he must be equally disappointed as well. dad's family supported us in different way, they might look cold, but i can tell they can be as warm, its my paternal genes that makes my dad and uncles composed in their behaviours. I expect that my paternal relatives are going to ignore us after realising what we have done, they are utterly disappointed, nonetheless, i am still full of respect for all my paternal uncles and aunts, they are good people.